Marriage

The three most important decisions an individual makes: the decision to become a Christian, the decision to remain faithful as a Christian, and the decision as to whom one will marry. Have you ever wondered why at a wedding the minister says, “Dearly beloved, we are gathered here this day to unite in holy matrimony this man and this woman”? It is because marriage is a divine institution declared by God Himself (Malachi 2:11). Marriage is a covenant between one man, one woman, and God, with God as the Head (Malachi 2:14; Matthew 19:4-6).

Despite what the law of the land declares legal, there is but one reason (cause) for divorce and that is sexual immorality (fornication) (Matthew 19:9). When Jesus made this statement, it so rattled his disciples they proclaimed, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry” (Matthew 19:10). Please remember God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16; also read Matthew 19:1-9).

Almost 50% (1 in 2) marriages fail in America today for a host of reasons. God calls us to carefully choose our mate. Marrying a person who is not a Christian is not a wise decision (1 Corinthians 7:39; 2 Corinthians 6:14). Before we marry, we need to ask ourselves, “Is this person going to be a help or be a hindrance to me in my walk with the Lord”? If a hindrance, do not marry that individual. Many believe they can change a person after they marry. Sometimes, this is true. Mates have converted their spouses to Christianity, but often the reverse is true. Many have left the faith to please their spouse. That is why marrying a Christian is vital.

Marriage can either be a wonderful blessing or be a terrible existence. My marriage of 40 years has been such a blessing to me. The right Christian spouse makes all the difference. Let us do all we can to be a blessing to our spouse. Let us do all we can to teach and train our children to do likewise.

Stay true to the Word,

Brother Travis